Confidence and Attraction

   Confidence will attract – sometimes lots of attraction and sometimes resentment.
Those less confident are likely to be more resentful, not always, but most have experienced resentment on the part of those less capable and aware of their lack around those who are confident. Many men feel the need to project confidence – to be a man! The only problem with this is, when the attracted gets close, the chinks, the cracks in the facade become obvious.
Real confidence does not emanate jealousy, insecurity or hostility. Real confidence has no need to criticize to feel great.
 
   Lack of confidence causes so many issues in relationships, be it love, work, or any other.
Getting along with others can be difficult without confidence. Suspecting the worst of others or always finding fault demonstrates not much confidence. Real confidence attracts great, good people, not pretentious fawners. When it comes down to it, people are attracted to confident partners who come in all shapes and sizes. Confidence is sexy!
 
   Now those tough boys, pretend tough boys, who swagger are rarely confident. They feel if they move or look a certain way, they will attract women. They do. But those women will soon find out that there’s no real confidence. In order for these fake fellows to feel good, someone needs to feel bad. It won't be them but those close to them, like girlfriends. Just like women, men are attracted by confidence. It is sexy, magnetic, alluring. Both sexes are attracted by confidence. Being the real deal is another thing. Feeling good about yourself is the inner guide to confidence. Long term attractions will not happen when the confidence is not real. Chronic anger, jealousy, hostility, suspicion are not the signs of a confident, balanced person.
 
   Attraction between the sexes has always been based on the confidence you exude or not. Confident people exude a great energy that the fakers cannot project long term because it’s only a facade. “Fake it until you make it” is a common saying. Fake it while you WORK on making it. Be grateful for who you are. Explore your talents, passions and abilities, learned and unlearned. Be grateful to be you and appreciate others. That is the best way to appreciate others, to be happy to be you.
 
   There are always things you wish you could change about yourself. That's being human. However, concentrate on the best of you, eliminate what you don't like about yourself if it involves moods or being ungenerous. “Accentuate the positive” as the old song says. Be positive, see life as a miracle, an adventure, exciting. Feel lucky to have a roof, friends, job, and a life of so many possibilities. Believe that anything is possible and anything will be. Laugh often. We love you all for trying and being the best you can be.